Self doubt and lack of confidence are the silent killers of your dreams.
I know, I’ve experienced both many times.
Here’s what else I know – about me and you.
5 THINGS I KNOW TO BE TRUE:
- You know far more than you give yourself credit for.
- You question whether or not you’ll ever achieve your lifelong dreams.
- You have a desire to make an impact but have no idea where to start.
- You have an idea for a business but don’t know how to make it happen.
- You often play small and take a backseat to others thanks to your fear of success.
How do I know? Because that was my story.
In 2004, I was newly divorced and raising 4 children on my own. We had lost our business, my then ex-husband was out of work and we were on the verge of losing our home. This was certainly not the vision I had for my life. The original plan was that I’d be a full time mom and he’d be the sole provider. That was no longer the option. In order to keep a roof over our heads and food on the table, I’d have to go back to work, the only issue, I had been a stay at home mom for 12 years. The demons of self-doubt started to take hold and my confidence in myself and my ability to trust was slowly crumbling. Who was going to hire me? Was skills can I possibly offer? I haven’t worked outside the house for years.
This was around the time that the grocery strike took place. So here I was a magna cum laude graduate and former business owner bagging groceries. Looking back now, I can say it was great; no stress, decent pay and I was home each afternoon when my kids got out of school. I worked every overtime shift I could do in order to pay off debt and take my family on a vacation to help ease the pain of divorce.
A few months later, after brushing my bruised ego aside, I landed a sales position nearby that afforded me the ability to keep my children in the same school district and near the same friends. That sales position was a huge blessing, it brought me back to visioning and goal setting. I know for a fact that we have the ability to create the life we desire. I also know that we are not given desires unless we have the ability to bring those to fruition, whether or not we choose to do so is up to us. Granted, it may not always be in the exact way we’d had thought it would come about, there may be various iterations or it may morph into a modified version, but what I do know is that achieving our goals often requires a deep dive into self. To push past the ego, limiting beliefs, or the mental games we play that keep us living small.
Sales, like acting or even entrepreneurship can be a business of rejection. To excel requires self awareness and determination. I’m thankful for that sales position as it pushed me to start my own business once again.
The only problem, I had no idea what I’d do. I simply knew that I was done building someone else’s business and I wanted to be at home with my children particularly during the “peer-pressure years”.
The clarity equation
I went back to the basics, if you are ever floundering or unsure what your next step should be, try this exercise: compile a list of your strengths, your knowledge, your interests and where you’ve had your most recent success. You’ll find an overlap which will narrow the field and give you clarity.
What I landed on, and took action on, became a huge turning point for me.
I would create an online publication for meeting planners. This was the low hanging fruit for me. It was what I knew and where I had my most recent success. It also combined my writing ability with my sales ability in an industry I enjoyed.
There was a slight issue though, I had no idea how to create an online publication, heck at the time I was lucky to add an attachment to an email. But what I know is that the how never matters. It’s desire that drives us to action and with action comes clarity, the how will always show up but you have to step out in action first. Taking action often requires a driving force, my motivators: my four children.
I created that online publication along with a website. That magazine attracted advertising dollars from top hotel brands and helped me transition full time into my own business.
It also led to the development of 2 additional businesses - my event production company and as an off shoot of that my content development/marketing company for the hospitality industry.
That was just a few years ago, as a result of the success of those, I now have my coaching business.
Yes, I believe we have all been given unique talents and abilities along with desires that we absolutely can realize, but without action they become like an unused muscle and atrophy.
My life and my children’s lives have changed considerably since those weary, tear-filled days of divorce and struggle.
My coaching style:
I’m a business coach who helps people create the business and life they’ve been longing for. Because, when you think about it, living life on someone else’s terms is really just absurd, isn’t it?
I teach action by action, getting into details, both the mental, because let’s face it entrepreneurship often requires a mental shift, and that practical that will turn your ideas into reality without the tech headaches, the frustration, time or money waste.
I show entrepreneurs how to ‘do it themselves’, better and often faster than the ‘experts’ who seem to charge half your savings and leave you with only a portion of what you need to truly build a thriving business.
I’m able to do this, because I teach what I’ve done. I show you how to leverage your time so you can enjoy your life, after all isn’t that a big part of why you wanted to start your business in the first place.
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Entrepreneurship is a journey. There are some bumps and hills along the way but it’s a life changing journey and 100% worth it...
and that's my story,